Being angry is very normal, until it starts having a control on your lives, thinking negative, overreacting, making assumptions, overthinking this makes your blood boil and you burst out in frustration and do wrong acts, you make decisions that make you regret later, it’s just because you had no control on your anger, so it should be handled very carefully otherwise it may become chronic, and cause many problems with us and our loved ones, it may cause relationships to end and make you depressed later regretting about the decisions you made. You are a completely happy person anger is just a negative trait of yours, whenever something bothers you, you just lose control of yourself and then you lose yourself and say things you never meant to say.
There are many ways to get out of anger or just not say anything at that moment, and how exactly you are going to do that is not easy but is not difficult either, all you have to is believe in yourself that you can, and nothing can stop you believe me it’s in your hands, if you don’t want to lose your partner or friend you need to learn how to manage your anger.
- Stay quiet:
The best way to control your anger or manage your anger is by staying quiet, I know it’s not easy to stay quiet while your blood is boiling, and you want to react badly to the situation but that’s how it works, you have control over it and you just need to calm yourself down and teach yourself to stay silent, its hard but not impossible, you just have to give it a try once. If you find it difficult to stay quiet then just leave that place, talk to someone and share whatever happened, watch tv, play sports or listen to your favorite music, that helps a lot, at that time when you are angry don’t just burst out try calming yourself and staying silent, no matter you are faulty, or the other person is. Don’t let your anger control your situation otherwise you will have to face some serious consequences.
- Control your emotions:
Whenever you are angry try to stay positive by controlling yourself, show others that you are strong, don’t let anger take control on you but you take control of your anger. Just when you are about to react just do one thing, breathe deep for at least four to five minutes, let your blood flow get back to normal and then you will feel like your anger has gone away and it was just temporary, never bottle up your emotions they have to be released otherwise they may cause problems in your heart and brain, just go for a healthy activity, or try writing down your emotions, talk to a friend, or try to solve it out. Anger makes us think negative and wrong about that person and we start to hate him or her but believe me it’s just for the time being, so don’t make your relationships worse just because you couldn’t control your anger that was temporary, and you may lose your loved one forever.
- Don’t let others interfere (solve it yourself):
Ok now, if you are really angry and all you are thinking is negative about your loved one and you have started to hate him for just one thing he or she did was against your will, at this moment you need to be intelligent enough to not share this with anyone, because the other person will only know one side of the picture and may make wrong decisions which may make you lose your loved one, so never let others interfere in your lives and calm you down by telling you are right and the other person is wrong because they don’t know who is right, they were not there when all of this happened. Try solving your problems yourself, you know it better than anyone else and you will see that you did right by not sharing it with anyone and saved your relation.
- Forgive and forget:
Now if you are really angry and you don’t want to lose the other person and you love him or her just think is your relationship important or getting aggressive is important? Just leave, just leave your anger, take a deep breath and forgive them no matter it’s their fault or not, this way your relationship will be saved, and you will feel brave and strong that you didn’t let anger take control over you.
- Accepting facts and failure:
It’s okay if someone did something against your rules, it’s not end of you or the world, you can’t reverse it, just try this technique to accept what has happened and tell the person who was at fault to never do that again, get upset for a short time that’s normal, but don’t react just accept that the thing has happened and it can’t be undone, your anger can’t make the situation better it will just worsen it even more. So, try to follow this technique.
- Exercise and workout:
This is the most tried and tested technique for managing anger, if you are really angry put on your jogging shoes, and turn on your playlist and run and run and run, you will feel a lot better, you will try solving things in your mind and you will come to a positive solution, without shouting or screaming at anyone, believe me it’s the most affective one, it regulates your blood flow throughout your body making you calm and think positively.
If you just delete your ego from your lives, you will see wonders, you will become strong, anger also makes a person weak and makes him suffer from a number of diseases. Stay happy and stay optimistic, don’t let anger take control of your emotions, save your relationships and stop fighting. Make things work positively.
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